Open That Door

It’s been a while since I’ve blogged, and in all honesty, it’s been by design! I needed to take a mini break to get settled in my newest role…

FULL TIME ENTREPRENEUR.

Yes…as of April 1, 2013 (April Fool’s Day lol) I quit my job in “corporate America”. It came out of nowhere. Nope…I didn’t give two weeks notice; nope, I have not a single regret. I politely told my mgmt person this simple phrase: “I think I am going to have to make my last day here TODAY”. Imagine the look of shock on his face when I said that! I was confident in my decision, had already taken a peak at my financial situation, and decided that I had to act NOW. And I did!

I’ve been happy ever since.

Thing is, in order for me to truly get the weight off of my shoulder, I had to open the door of LEAVING that job. I was MISERABLE (I’m sure some of you have viewed past posts which made reference to my disdain for that place…), and I could not “find joy” in having to be there for seven hours and forty five minutes of my life, day in and day out, anymore. I thought about how much money I had been making there, and let out a sigh…the money was great, but not enough to keep me from being unhappy. I just know that I could no longer take the misery!

I left…and not 10 minutes after I was gone, I received two referrals to manage social media for their brands. For a while I had been working full time on BOTH–the corporate job and my career–and I was completely worn out. One had to go…and it was NOT going to be my PR Firm…

In order for me to receive the vision TOTALLY, I had to open that door of “the money is good at this job though”, walk ALL THE WAY out of it, and activate my faith. My spirit is free now. I may not be making the same amount of money that I was bringing home from the corporate job, but my clientele is picking up tremendously, and I have yet to be worried about making ends meet. I refuse to worry about what God has already done!

I challenge you to Open That Door. The door to working out, establishing your place in society, being open to love, mending a friendship, saving more money…whatever the “door” is for you, go ahead and open it. A huge part of your life’s work is to strengthen what already exists inside of you.

Be free to be who you are; my testimony is simply that I chose to Open That Door. Here’s a look at my door: http://www.prbyelle77.com

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7BLOGGERDAYS: JAN11 Favorite Moment

One of my most favorite moments is when I decided to start my own business!

I was hesitant to do so in such a trying economic time…but one day, while on a brief medical leave from my job, I formulated my plan! I also recall being selected for jury duty, and thinking to myself “there is a chance that I will NOT get called; let me take my notebook and write out some ideas”…and that’s exactly what I did! I did not get called that day for duty, so I spent a FULL 6 or so hours writing out my vision for my company.

Well, I’m coming up on a ONE YEAR of being an entrepreneur, and it feels great! I woke up this morning to an email from someone soliciting me for their brands, plus emails from clients updating me on things that they need…that instantly made me smile. I LOVE what I do, and I am grateful that I did not let the financial hardships of the world cut into my dreams! Once I got over my initially hesitancy, I discovered that everything needed to “Just Do It” was on the inside!!

I am a better woman for staying focused on my goals! I challenge you to do the same!

 

7BloggerDays!

Just WRITE!

Do you have any idea how FREEING that is??

You can be as ANGRY as you want to be on paper…and at times, that helps you to get out those “loose” emotions…you know, the things you probably would regret actually “saying” to someone…

Try this 7BloggerDays list that I created, in an effort to get more of you writing. It doesn’t have to be a dissertation; it could be all pictures if you’d like! Just make sure you say SOMETHING!

JAN11: Your favorite moment

JAN12: Your favorite part of a really good movie and what you learned from it

JAN13: How you feel about social media

JAN14: Your favorite outfit

JAN15: Describe the last thing you cooked or (for those who don’t cook) describe your favorite meal

JAN16: **PICTURE** a picture of yourself and what was going on at that time

JAN17: A funny moment

Make sure you let me know about your post so that I can read! I will be doing the 7BloggerDays w you all!

GO!

Lauran

The Urgency of FOCUS (34)

I would not be honest w myself or ANYONE else if I made my life out to be “crystal stair-ish”…my ish is NOT perfect by any means, and I don’t portray a person w a perfect life, but let me enlighten you…

DISCLAIMER: if you get your panties in a bunch about things relative to my life and how I feel about my blessings, that’s something YOU have to deal with. I’m not knocking the life of another; I’m writing about my own. Thank You (that’s for the softies who get “in their feelings”) LOL

My family dynamic is phenomenal AND RARE nowadays i.e. two parent household, all siblings by the same two parents, all children born after the marriage, parents married UNTIL death…all of those factors are dopetastic…but let me tell you; my family is NOT perfect. I don’t need to go into detail, but know this: EVERY FAMILY has some level of dysfunction; those relationships need improvement. Keep reading…

My lovely company (PRbyELLE77) will need to be tweaked, and often, if I am to remain in business. That’s not a perfect situation either, certainly will always need improvement…

My relationship w God–the most IMPORTANT of relationships that anyone could ever have, in my opinion–gets a BIG ole “needs improvement”…and in red letters though…

I need to workout PERIOD. I’m not fat, my last physical exam w my Doctor was awesome, but I am NOT in the mood for a gym, yet I complain about problem areas when the onus is on me…needs improvement…

Now…I just gave you FOUR areas in my life that need improvement (I only NAMED four…that’s not all; that’s just all I care to share). With that said, HOW ON EARTH do I have time to get off into someone else’s business? My focus must remain strong on those matters of importance to me, which are family ties, my PR firm, my relationship w God, the fact that I need to workout, etc. Someone said to me Monday–if we are what we eat, we are what we think. POWERFUL!!! I am not a bad person because I am not necessarily doing things on a “straight and narrow path”; some people will have to come to grips w that very fact alone, but I ALSO have to realize that my path, and the choices regarding said path, are MINE and mine alone. With my PR Firm, I cannot get discouraged if things aren’t smooth sailing INSTANTLY. I want to quit THE HELL out of my 9-5 EVERY SINGLE SOLITARY DAY…every dawg gone day lol BUT…instead of complaining about being at the job, I wake up and say to myself “I get to quit my job”–this is a fact! I WILL get the opportunity to quit, when God sees fit for me to leave! Changing my outlook on that has changed the way I handle the job! My relationship w God and the fine tuning that MUST come w that starts also w me. He has never ONCE left me; I’ve strayed away from Him. His arms remain open wide for me, so mine are open to receive the embrace that He will give to my spirit, granting me PEACE in the situations around me. Good Lord I need you…

The gym? Eeeeeeeeh…I’m not perfect LMAO!! But no, I will figure out the best plan for me, however in my planning, I can’t become angry that I don’t “look” a certain way in a certain amount of time. I have to come to grips w a slower metabolism, which means I will have to work that much harder. But it’s all for ME. A size six isn’t bad; but a TONED size six is what I’m looking for.

Bottom line: there is NOTHING more urgent than focus! NOTHING. If you’re focused, you won’t be shaken…I’m working on that daily…

Elle

Your Past: And You're Holding On Foooooor…(25)

(And I’m serious when I say this)…I am going to SERIOUSLY send up prayers for KeKe Wyatt.

Disclaimer: I am not blogging to belittle her, bash her or to talk badly about her…but she needs prayer and peace.

KeKe Wyatt, for those unfamiliar, is one of five “Divas” on the new series R&B Divas, that is aired on Monday evenings on the tvOne network. I am personally a fan of KeKe’s voice; she can straight just SANG. HOWEVER…she is harboring ill feelings that she has not yet resolved from a previous marriage. On one episode, KeKe is in the “booth”, getting ready to sing. Her husband is in the room w the music engineers, and a young lady comes in and gives him a note. Not sure what the note was about, but in a “secure” eye, the way in which the note was passed to him was not offensive. KeKe noticed this interaction, and immediately snapped at the young lady AND her husband (1st mistake). She went on to call the gesture inappropriate, she ended up crying, and EVERYONE IN THE STUDIO was brought into the situation (2nd mistake). She chose to express her anger out in public, and her manager (I believe) had to pull her into another room to have a sidebar conversation to calm her down, etc.

ADDRESSING THE FIRST MISTAKE: There truly was no reason for her to have snapped on either party. Period. I could see if the young lady came in the room and tongued her husband down…she only brought in a note, which could have been a phone message, a confirmation on a gift that he was getting for KeKe, or something pertaining to their 5.5 kids (KeKe was pregnant at the time of this incident; she has since birthed her 6th child named Wyatt). We haven’t a clear clue as to what was going on, nor do we know what that note was about, so why snap? If you’d like to know what the note was about, ask him!

ADDRESSING THE SECOND MISTAKE: Relationships are complicated on their own, minus outside influences…why was everyone in the studio invited into the resolution of, or discussion surrounding, what had just happened? At THIS point, time is MONEY…studio sessions are not cheap, so now the session time is spent trying to calm her down and to counsel her briefly. Wrong place, wrong time…

ALTHOUGH KEKE’S SITUATION MAY BE EXTREME, KEKE IS NOT UNLIKE MANY OF YOU READING THIS BLOG…either that, or you are familiar w someone who may struggle w insecurities from their past…

I completely and wholeheartedly believe in love. 100%; not wavering from this; I’m all for being in love. But IN THAT, there’s no room for your baggage. True, we will all carry something w us, but if you are still harboring #painful feelings from a previous heartache, you may need to spend some time alone and regroup; and no…hopping into a NEW relationship/dating situation will not help you to “get over” your pain, so please Sir/please Ma’am spare someone else from your uncertainty; have a few seats! Speaking w your Pastor, a Counselor, or just taking time to rediscover those things that you lost are all helpful when recovering from a past hurt. I remember being hurt very badly in a past relationship, and I waited seven years before I got into another one. I vivdly recall losing 10 lbs due to not eating, I was pretty much existing (not living), and I remember how ANGRY my Father was at the guy who had caused me to be in such pain. After about six months of going thru the emotions I had surrounding that hurtful relationship, I was ready to “have conversations” w men. After a full year and some change had passed, I began dating…but my point in even mentioning that is…I took time to make sure that I was not about to inadvertently place the responsibility of fixing my broken heart on someone else (also, my time frame of healing is not necessarily going to work for the next person…that’s something that you have to figure out on your own). What people ALSO don’t realize is…when you make someone “pay for” what a past beaux did, you start a cycle of pain and potentially reckless behavior. What do hurting people do? They hurt other people. So see NOOOOOOW you’ve hurt the new guy/girl, and they may go on a spree of sexcapades, playing the field, and breaking hearts along the way. ONE ACTION can cause a CHAIN of reactions…is it worth it to mess up someone else’s life SIMPLY because yours isn’t together? Get Your Life, Sir/Ma’am…

I know I know…people don’t like to be alone. So? I don’t like bills LOL. But seriously…until a more mature and nurturing relationship comes along? You may NEED to be alone! There’s no way you can “get away” from yourself, so spend some time getting to know what you will and will not tolerate. You have to rebuild after someone has attempted to tear you down. That stuff can HURT; don’t reopen the wound; let it heal. Be good to yourself FIRST before you expect for someone else to be good to you. Men and women can equally “smell” an insecure individual…and…some take advantage OF someone vulnerable/insecure. Become “whole” again so that no more wool will be pulled over your eyes. Once that rain called pain has gone away, the healing comes in looking for the rainbow.

eLLe

QUESTIONS…Do You Know Where And Who You Are? (6)

I’m the LAST person to try and slide my way into someone’s personal affairs, however there is always a time where a person can self reflect, regroup, reinvent, etc.  I don’t care who you are either…there is no way that remaining the same will produce different results.  :O)

With that said, I’ve come up w a list of questions that I feel need to be answered…but to yourselves.  If you want to answer them publicly, then so do, because guess what…that’s your business and your choice.  But regardless, folks’ lives are overdue for a sprucing.   

Maybe a nice lil walk would be a good way to ponder these questions…

Or…go to a place like this one in your mind…

Time to go though…
1. What “mindless behavior” can you cease in order to achieve your goals?
2. Sooooo…do you even have a list of goals?
3. When’s the last time you spent time w God?
4. How are you using your gifts?
5. Who are you envious/jealous of?
6. How are you giving back to your community?
7. How often do you tell a loved one (your choice of who) that you love them/appreciate them?
8. If you plan to be a Wife/Husband one day, are you taking the time to check yourself of behaviors that you need not bring into a relationship as serious as that? (you do INDEED have to practice those behaviors which you plan to make permanent…and they will become permanent)
9. That one person that doesn’t add ANYTHING to your life…why are they still allowed to be involved in your decision-making?
10. Do you seek to find the positive in a situation?
11. Are you one who always seems to think that you have these “pseudo-haters”? *rolls eyes*
12. Living above your means?
13. What sacrifices are you making to leave that situation (i.e. relationship/job/etc) that you constantly complain about?
14. Did you know that perception REALLY IS REALITY?  (Rather unfortunate truth, but a truth all the same…)
15. How do you handle conflict?
16. Are you “selfish” or “selfless”?
17. You have dreams of becoming a designer/business owner/etc…do you know how to form a complete sentence? (I’m not even being funny…it’s just TONS of so-called “Bosses” out here w no idea of how to use correct grammar, amongst other things)
18. Are you always the one telling everyone what your next move is?
19. Are you ashamed of the love you’re in/person you’re with?
20. Being bold/blunt is definitely a great thing…do you know how to be “tactful” though?
21. What is your prayer life looking like?
22. Who do you trust?
23. Who trusts you?
24. You solicit support for your endeavors…when’s the last time YOU supported an endeavor?
25. Are you always “right”?
27. Hell yeah you can shop til you drop and flaunt your digs…you still stayin’ at the crib or do you have your own?
28. What does your faith rest in?
29. What are you afraid of?
30. Who are you living your life for?
31. Did you realize that there was no question 26? (ha! Had to throw a curve ball)

Your greatest investment is yourself…or are you investing in what goes ON your “self”.  That’s whack…that stuff has no value in the grand scheme of things…you may look good (you “may” *shrugs*), but styles are always changing. Trends are fleeting; truth is forever; if you lie to or cheat yourself, you will have no problems doing the same thing to me or the next person.  So before someone else gets the opportunity to “tell you who YOU are”, why not figure that out for yourself. #ThankMeLater

*smoochface*

Elle