It Is Only Hair! (2) Natural hair is not necessarily better; processed hair is not necessarily horrible…

If you know me, you know that hair is my thing!  Nope…not a stylist; just your average “product and salon junkie” lol.  For the past 12+ yrs, I have trusted my tresses to the one and only Kelly Jay…a friend of mine who is INSANE on the hair tip.  She has been in the hair care industry for 15 or so yrs, so the girl knows what she’s talking about.  The other Beautiful thing about my great and talented friend? She comes from a line of stylists, and they all work in the same salon…Grandmother Eula, Mom Regina, and Kelly! A Family affair!

Ok let’s get into it. In all honesty, I get sick and tired of the “newly natural” ladies telling me how wrong I am for getting a relaxer. So, when I went in for my weekly appointment with Kelly, we discussed the myths about natural and processed hair. “It all depends on the hair”, says Kelly. “Whether natural or processed, ends will split”. So then I asked about maintenance of natural hair–more maintenance required? “Depends on how you wear your natural hair. If you like to get your natural hair straightened, then yes. With processed hair, you’re only relaxing the new growth and trimming the dead ends”. Mom Regina, while providing a shampoo to her client, chimed in with a very interesting point…”all hair is dead; once it grows out of your scalp, it’s dead. Your hair has no nerve endings, so you don’t feel it when it’s cut”.*brows raised* Huh! So true…if we felt hair cuts and trims? I’m SURE we would need anesthesia.

Noooooooow to one of the most discussed topics regarding hair…weave/extensions. Everywhere you TURN, SOMEONE has a good, bad or indifferent weave. I personally am not a fan, but I don’t care WHO gets a weave; you still have some care involved in that as well. “Sew-ins are good”, per Kelly, “but they need to be removed at least every two months–your own hair still has to be maintained. Leaving sew-ins longer than two months can actually damage YOUR hair, causing the hair to become matted, etc”. So you mean to tell me…people actually leave a weave in LONGER than two months? The look she gave me when I asked her THAT question was priceless…but the most amazing thing is, when the damaged hair owner comes in to Kelly, they want an instant repair. She went on to say that “quick weaves” and bonding are also fine, but the proper products are needed to REMOVE the hair…ok low key, weaves frighten me and cause me a great deal of stress lol. Moving riiiiiiight along…!

I couldn’t end my hair convo without talking to the Queen…that being Mrs. Eula (might I add, she is also a comedian)! So I asked how long she had been doing hair; her answer? “100 yrs”–see…pure comedy. She advises that the shampoo is the best treatment for the hair because it helps to maintain, as this is the beginning of the style; What many don’t know about Mrs. Eula is that when she had a shop over on 61st and King Dr for 25 yrs, hers was one of the first shops to do relaxers in Chicago, and people would come from all over Chicago to get them from her. #BlackHerStory

**All three agree that you should visit your stylist at least every 7-10 days, but every 14 days is fine and is actually more common…everyone’s budget isn’t the same.  However a licensed professional “knows hair”…so let them maintain yours.**

To conclude, if you can recall, the common thread? MAINTENANCE. If you don’t maintain your natural OR processed hair…well…you won’t have much hair left to maintain. Take your weaves out on time, keep your ends trimmed, and remember…natural isn’t necessarily “better”, and processed isn’t necessarily “horrible”. What’s “better” is well-maintained hair; what’s “horrible” is having a lack of care and concern for your tresses. Oh…and my shameless plug for my girl…find her on under “Kelly Jay” for appointments and photos of her artistry…she’s baaaaaaaaaaaaaaad…what can I say!Aaaaaaaaand even I may have a few styles on there…ok yeah I do…ha!!