Just A Quick Pet Peeve…

Sitting in my favorite coffee shop, and in walks one of those “extra important people”…by that I mean someone who comes in the coffee shop either talking loudly to other coffee house guests, or someone who comes in talking loudly on their cell phones.

He is talking loudly on his cell phone.

He, along with so many others, is the reason that I LOVE ear buds and the peace I get simply from plugging them into my ears.

I was actually wrapping up some work that I was completing, and completely forget to include another item on my agenda. In walks “extra important”. Not only talking loudly, but wearing the loudest cologne EVER CREATED. And where does he sit? At a table directly in front of me, and positioned himself to face me as well. So I’m catching it ALL. I QUICKLY grabbed my earbuds back out of my purse, slid them in my ears, and turned on iTunes. I have completed tuned him out…unfortunately, earbuds don’t work on bogus cologne.

At any rate, one of my biggest pet peeves is someone who speaks EXTREMELY loud, and for what seems like no other reason than to let someone know “he look at me, I’m here”. Sir, please have a nice seat because I can’t with you today.

Now…coffee shops aren’t “libraries”, and I’m fully aware that people will talk w friends/business partners/have phone conversations. But to be “extra important” is really…well…whack. There actually is a coffee shop protocol to follow, and the loud conversations and loud cologne aren’t included.

“Extra Important” has left the building. I can now remove my earbuds (if I choose), and work in peace.

Moral of the Story: just be respectful of your neighbors in general. Some people naturally talk loud…but the same people who naturally talk loud, are fully aware that they do. Can’t tell me otherwise LOL!

Enjoy your Thursday!

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Someone You Should Know (30)

I had the extreme pleasure of interviewing Keith Luellen, a photographer w an amazing eye for capturing the most intimate and beautiful moments!

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He is extremely passionate about his desire to thrive in this industry, and this young man is well on his way! Let’s take a look!

ELLE: What were you doing/where were you in life (i.e. job/school) when you decided that you enjoy taking pictures and wanted to pursue this as a career?

KL: “I’ve always had a passion for photography, but once I knew that I was going to be a father, I had no choice but to get started. Picking up a DSLR (camera) was no option. I wanted to capture each moment of fatherhood; and I wanted to capture it correctly. At the time, I was working full time for UIC Medical Center (currently still employed there). I began practicing before and after work.”

ELLE: Where is your hometown?

KL: “I was born in Hawaii and lived in California for a bit, but I’ve been in Chicago since 93′ so I am a Chicagoan for sure.”

ELLE: Any photographers/artists in your family?

KL: “My father was an “unofficial” photographer. But his work was amazing.”

ELLE: Who are some of your major influences?

KL: “Trey Ratliff has really inspired me. He is a great photographer! He was born blind in one eye which helped aid in his interests in photography. His works are some of the best I’ve ever seen.”

ELLE: Tell us about your first photography job…were you nervous? What kind of shoot was this? How long did the shoot take?

KL: “Wow…Good question…It was a shoot that I did for a makeup artist, stylist, and beautician. I took pictures of models and I believe that it lasted about 4 hours. I’m sure that I was extremely nervous. I can remember just having to keep taking pictures and saying to myself that one of these 3,000 pictures HAS to be great.”

ELLE: Do you have a ritual that gets you prepared for a shoot? If so, what is it?

KL: “Yes, I do have somewhat of a ritual. It’s funny mentioning it out loud, but I take a picture of myself and jokingly say to the models, “well the camera still works”. That tends to help relax the models and lighten the mood.”

ELLE: Name two of your favorite photography gigs.

KL: “I really don’t have a favorite, but the type of shoots that I enjoy most are the outdoor/family ones. Now that I think about it, I did an event with J’marcus Webb that I thought was really cool. I was his personal photographer for a night. It was at the 2012 Common Ground Gala, which is a pretty big fundraiser sponsored by the widely acclaimed musician Common Sense.”

ELLE: Who are your biggest supporters?

KL: “I have so many people in my family that support, that I can’t distinguish who supports more than the other. However, I can say that I greatly appreciate it.”

ELLE: Where can people find samples of your work?

KL: “My work can be found in a few places. The most common place is my personal website which is http://www.SYGUP.com. However, I also have pictures on the following websites as well.”

http://www.facebook.com/SYGUP

http://sygup.smugmug.com/

http://www.flickr.com/photos/sygup/

It was my absolute pleasure to interview Keith, and please be on the lookout for his work! For booking, please visit his website http://www.sygup.com. Also, on Friday November 23, 2012, he will be featured via “The Platform” at http://www.urbanfetes.com, as an up and coming artist in photography! Check him out and make sure to support his business!!

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ELLE

Men And Women: What You Should Know (4)

Naaaaaaaaaaaaaaah…this ain’t about to be your average “relationship” blog; yall see those frequently, and I’m not about to discuss my own (WHICH, by the way, is awesome). But at any rate, *clears throat and smiles*, I just want it to be known that there really isn’t MUCH difference between women and men. The OBVIOUS difference doesn’t need to be stated (hello), but think on these things for a sec:

1. Women can be emotionally charged; but so can men.
2. Men can be nonchalant, unmoved, and uncaring; but so can women.
3. Women can be opportunists/gold diggers/seeking to be “arm candy”; but so can men.
4. Men can date 12 other ppl and still hold #ONE higher than the rest; buuuuuuuuut so can women.
5. Women seek to be single parents (seeing A LOT of that lately); but men seek that as well…rare, but they do..
6. Men go to the barber shop for hair cuts/linings; huh…so do women (I personally have a barber).
7. Women are graceful in ballet; so are men.
8. Men hoop and play football; so do women.
9. Women can be multi-taskers and run a house like a champ; so can men.
10. Men can fall in love and STAY in love; so can women.
11. Women sell their bodies for MORE than just sex; so do men.
12. Men are gadget geeks; I know PLENTY of women gadget geeks lol
13. Women can nurture your mind, heart, and soul; so can men.
14. Men provide financial/emotional/physical security; women can provide this as well.
15. Women can LAY SOME HAIR OUT; hell, SO CAN MEN!!
16. Men can totally be attractive in uniform; so can women!
17. Women like to talk; so do men!
18. Men are known to be rigid and unbending; women are as well.
19. Women accept engagement rings; gtfoh! so do men!
20: Men are strong spiritual leaders in their homes; women are known for that as well.

I could go on…I stopped at 20 randomly…but the thing you REALLY should know is that you MUST take the person for who he is, not based on the stereotypes associated w “gender”. That’s part of the problem w any kind of relationship i.e. intimate, fraternal, spiritual, platonic, etc. We fail to accept the PERSON. I’ll tell you all something–and it’s something that people MAY not readily know about me–I wasn’t always excited about marriage…but see, you wouldn’t know that #now based on where I am in my life. Not by a clock though…being in love brought about that change in me. Seeing that marriages DO ACTUALLY WORK (along w having an example of “til death do us part” in my own home) kept a good taste about marriage in my mouth. However…had I decided that #Sir was EVERYTHING that EVERY guy was in my past, then I’d probably still swear off marriage, or love in general. Same for my girls: I’ve experienced an incident where a certain young lady just could NOT BELIEVE that her then boo and I were just cool. He and I were cool prior to her invitation into his life. But BECAUSE SHE COULD NOT grasp a relationship w a guy that didn’t involve sex, she perceived he and I to be bumpin’ buddies. Had I assumed that all women were this way, I wouldn’t have the Sisters that I have in: JoAnna Vanessa Wilborn, LaKeshia Adams, LaToya Lyons, Dawnielle Alfred, Charisma Branch, Cynara Baines, Jamie Fair, Shena Beamon, Roslyn Davis, Fiesha Burge, and Ambra Hendrix. I just wouldn’t have any of them; they accepted me for me, and I them.

IDK…if you want the best out of a situation, don’t expect a certain result based on what a person “is”. Look at what they bring. Embrace something other than your stereotype!

*smoochface*

Elle