Ten Things That Love Should NOT Feel Like…

Being in love has got to be one of the most amazing feelings ever…next to seeing your newborn son or daughter for the first time after labor (so I hear). That “in love” feeling is also amazing when you are loved back.

Well…now knowing what love is, I also know what love is not. I’m not an authority on the subject, but the heart will never lie to you.

Let’s go:

  1. Love should never make you feel fear.
  2. Love should not feel like a “chore”.
  3. Love should not be extremely hard or feel tough.
  4. Love should never make you feel as though you are alone.
  5. If someone loves you, you should never feel as though they just “don’t care”.
  6. Love should never place you in a state of confusion.
  7. Love never fails; if it’s hurting you, then it isn’t love.
  8. Love should never feel as though it isn’t supportive; love IS an anchor and something that grounds you, holding you steady in the midst of ANYTHING.
  9. Love should never make you question your decision TO love (deep)…AND FINALLY…
  10. LOVE NEVER LIES…

I won’t part my lips to say I Love You and not mean it…that’s the problem though; people say it, knowing full well that it’s empty and FAR from sincere.

Your best bet? Pray before you commit yourself to someone. Let God order your steps in a new or even a more seasoned relationship! You can even get better footing w someone if you have fallen off track, yet you all are on the same page, and willing to work at the relationship. Do the work BEFORE things go sour (if they ever do). Just make sure that you know that “flowers, bells, whistles, and candy” ALL of the time is not real. There will be disagreements, heated discussions, anger, etc., but love has the extreme and undeniable power to conquer any of those things. Just have enough sense to keep an open mind.

Take my poll and let me know if you agree w this post!

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Men And Women: What You Should Know (4)

Naaaaaaaaaaaaaaah…this ain’t about to be your average “relationship” blog; yall see those frequently, and I’m not about to discuss my own (WHICH, by the way, is awesome). But at any rate, *clears throat and smiles*, I just want it to be known that there really isn’t MUCH difference between women and men. The OBVIOUS difference doesn’t need to be stated (hello), but think on these things for a sec:

1. Women can be emotionally charged; but so can men.
2. Men can be nonchalant, unmoved, and uncaring; but so can women.
3. Women can be opportunists/gold diggers/seeking to be “arm candy”; but so can men.
4. Men can date 12 other ppl and still hold #ONE higher than the rest; buuuuuuuuut so can women.
5. Women seek to be single parents (seeing A LOT of that lately); but men seek that as well…rare, but they do..
6. Men go to the barber shop for hair cuts/linings; huh…so do women (I personally have a barber).
7. Women are graceful in ballet; so are men.
8. Men hoop and play football; so do women.
9. Women can be multi-taskers and run a house like a champ; so can men.
10. Men can fall in love and STAY in love; so can women.
11. Women sell their bodies for MORE than just sex; so do men.
12. Men are gadget geeks; I know PLENTY of women gadget geeks lol
13. Women can nurture your mind, heart, and soul; so can men.
14. Men provide financial/emotional/physical security; women can provide this as well.
15. Women can LAY SOME HAIR OUT; hell, SO CAN MEN!!
16. Men can totally be attractive in uniform; so can women!
17. Women like to talk; so do men!
18. Men are known to be rigid and unbending; women are as well.
19. Women accept engagement rings; gtfoh! so do men!
20: Men are strong spiritual leaders in their homes; women are known for that as well.

I could go on…I stopped at 20 randomly…but the thing you REALLY should know is that you MUST take the person for who he is, not based on the stereotypes associated w “gender”. That’s part of the problem w any kind of relationship i.e. intimate, fraternal, spiritual, platonic, etc. We fail to accept the PERSON. I’ll tell you all something–and it’s something that people MAY not readily know about me–I wasn’t always excited about marriage…but see, you wouldn’t know that #now based on where I am in my life. Not by a clock though…being in love brought about that change in me. Seeing that marriages DO ACTUALLY WORK (along w having an example of “til death do us part” in my own home) kept a good taste about marriage in my mouth. However…had I decided that #Sir was EVERYTHING that EVERY guy was in my past, then I’d probably still swear off marriage, or love in general. Same for my girls: I’ve experienced an incident where a certain young lady just could NOT BELIEVE that her then boo and I were just cool. He and I were cool prior to her invitation into his life. But BECAUSE SHE COULD NOT grasp a relationship w a guy that didn’t involve sex, she perceived he and I to be bumpin’ buddies. Had I assumed that all women were this way, I wouldn’t have the Sisters that I have in: JoAnna Vanessa Wilborn, LaKeshia Adams, LaToya Lyons, Dawnielle Alfred, Charisma Branch, Cynara Baines, Jamie Fair, Shena Beamon, Roslyn Davis, Fiesha Burge, and Ambra Hendrix. I just wouldn’t have any of them; they accepted me for me, and I them.

IDK…if you want the best out of a situation, don’t expect a certain result based on what a person “is”. Look at what they bring. Embrace something other than your stereotype!

*smoochface*

Elle