Great Thursday!

It’s been a MINUTE since I’ve written on my own blog! Yes…I know…life can sometimes get insanely crazy, but I will no longer neglect my responsibility here!

Thank you for being so patient…and thank you for your support! Got plenty of updates for you:

  1. I am now a Brand Ambassador for Voice Of Hair! Follow them via Instagram as well! I am not a Contributing Writer for their blog, and I also submit pictures via their site to show case the newest and latest hair styles.
  2. I also have a published piece via Jet Magazine! I was able to submit a post regarding a few simple business tips.
  3. I am an official third quarter blogger for The Boss Network! This is a network that has been sited by Forbes and Inc Magazines as one of the top ten networking sites for women in business!
  4. I am back into runway modeling, and loving it!
  5. I am also back in the studio singing and recording, with a show this month with my Uncle Kirk Whalum!

To say that I have been busy, is an understatement, however it is NOT a complaint! My gifts are making room for me to move and grow, and I appreciate being handed the opportunity to serve in such ways. I will be posting more on my opinions about some of the things that are happening in the world as well. So much has happened since I last SERIOUSLY blogged, and my views on so many things are different…would LOVE to share and get your feedback.

Have an amazing Thursday! Feels so good to be back!

Follow me via IG at @lauranslane.

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What You Want vs What You Accept

Currently digesting information from these pages:

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Author Steve Harvey is not necessarily “liked” by many, as it relates to his advice on relationships…I actually like him, and I agree w quite a bit of what he discusses in this book and in “Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man”.

One thing I am noticing in today’s relationship society is that people are looking for that “quick fix”, or the situation that yields mostly, or only, tangibles. Hmmmm…if I’m honest with MYSELF (speaking for Lauran Adell ONLY) I know that I want more than just a handbag or a trip to an exotic island. On page 56 of the book “Straight Talk, No Chaser”, Steve makes a VERY strong statement. He says “…accepting gifts from a guy without getting what you want in return is nothing more than an advanced form of prostitution”. What makes this statement so TRUE is that I know women who willingly accept gifts from men, yet secretly desire a real relationship (if your BOYFRIEND/FIANCE/HUSBAND buys gifts for you, that’s different–I’m not referring to those women). When a woman accepts those gifts, handbags and trips, without getting what she truly wants, she is in fact a “bought woman”; you JUST told a man that you have a “set price”, not that you are “priceless”. This ALSO speaks to the fact that a Father or Father figure is JUST AS important in a girl-child’s life as one is in a boy-child’s life. (DISCLAIMER: this is not to say that a woman is ONLY strong if she has a Father/Father-figure; this is merely stating the IMPORTANCE of said role in a girl-child’s life…keep reading!)

My Father, bless his HUGE heart, is the BEST MAN IN THE WORLD to me; a modern-day Superman!

Here I am w my Daddy at a luncheon at our church, where he Pastors, where the men were honored:

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He has made it so that I don’t ever have to want or need for anything!

Because he was (and still is) very active in my life, I understand that I deserve the very best that a man has to offer. My Father has ALWAYS given me his best, even when I didn’t want to hear what he had to say on certain topics; but that didn’t stop him from being the best Daddy to me…I salute him and how he has been very crucial in how I handle men. BECAUSE OF HIS INFLUENCE, I can smell the proverbial bullsh*t miles away.

Steve Harvey hits on SEVERAL points about how to deal w men and how to get what you would like out of men (i.e. commitments , honesty, etc, not referring to tangible items–please…), but one thing that he will state, and states OFTEN is the fact that if you aren’t getting what you desire out of your relationship/if you feel that it is going nowhere/if he won’t commit, LET HIM GO. I love how he refuses to sugar coat a situation w his female audience…and for some, it’s just what we need to hear/read. What you want HONESTLY is that commitment; so why settle by merely accepting gifts that only pacify you for the moment? It’s easier to manuever through these situations w men when you KNOW YOUR OWN PERSONAL VALUE. It’s only a problem when you have no clue as to who you actually are and what YOU actually want.

I know what I want and I won’t settle for less than I deserve; I have my Father to thank for that! My Mother (may her soul rest in heavenly peace) was married to a KING (my Daddy); she encouraged him, supported his vision(s), and stood by him. Also, my Dad knew he was blessed with a Queen–and he treated her as such! A woman who encourages her significant other and supports him will ultimately make a man “want” to change his ways FOR HER! You can’t “change a man”, but you can be so phenomenal that he commits to making changes on his own…KNOW THE DIFFERENCE!

MOM AND DAD

There is no textbook method in getting to know someone, however you have to truly evaluate and sometimes RE-evaluate your situation on a regular basis.

Are you getting what you want?
Or are you getting what you accept? I’m hoping you know the difference…trust me; the men ALREADY KNOW THE GAME; we have to “navigate the plays”, ladies!

(FYI: if your man is honest w you, he will acknowledge his growth (or lack thereof) with you, and will let you know JUST how valuable you are to his life…I never said that love is easy, but I do know that love should not hurt you, and is ABSOLUTELY worth it!)

To Sir: Wherever you are as you read my blog, I Love You; I appreciate you allowing me to love you the way that I am designed to love a man, I am grateful for your support of everything that I do, I will always encourage you to be the best that you can be, I have your back, and life has been amazing since you’ve entered into it. Thank You for being there for me; no matter what we have gone thru, I wouldn’t change a thing…I know, just like I knew back in 2011, that I am in good hands. *muah* 

ELLE

Title: Sherry Burton Ways Virtual Book Tour Day 1!!!

I am happy to share with you a special article by Sherry.

Your Favorite Color Is For Your Healing Color.

The colors and images in your decor reflect aspects of yourself that can build you up or tear you down. Color can nurture your soul as food nourishes your body. Determine what colors are your favorites. Which ones feed you right down to your bones, and energize and heal you? Whatever colors they are, make sure that you have them somewhere in your environment. Choose items in your favorite colors, such as fabrics, vases, dishes, and flowers, and place them where they can feed you at a glance. Whether it is the violet light within an amethyst crystal or the vibrant turquoise glaze on your favorite mug, feast on the colors that nourish you.

The best way to learn about the effect of colors is to look at those we choose in our home environment. These give many clues to our personalities and inner feelings. Carefully chosen colors can build our self-image so that we are better able to cope with the stresses of modern life and improve our relationships with others.

Color preferences coincide with major changes in our lives, and a change in attitude or physical state is often accompanies by a change in our color preferences. Think about one of your favorite rooms in your house. What colors are mostly in that room? Do these colors uplift you or make you depressed? If so, find colors that make you feel good.

Tomorrow Faith Hunter will host the tour on her blog Faith Hunter with a video: “Mid Winter Blues? Here are Two Quick Interior Tips!” http://embracedc.com/about/blog

Visit Sherry’s website to sign up to win a prize!

* Grand prize: A copy of Sherry’s book along with her grand prize of a 30-minute H.O.M.E. Interior Environment Intro Coaching Session via Skype or in person depending on location.

* A copy of Sherry’s book along with a 20-minute Color Therapy Consultation via Skype. Color Therapy Consults for interior color is one of the first elements you notice when you walk into a room, and color resonates with you when you leave. Color sets a mood: The right color combination can transform a home or office and bring all who reside there new levels of energy. Custom color palettes for interior walls can bring happiness, harmony and well-being.
* A copy of Feel Good Spaces: A Guide for Decorating Your Home for the Body, Mind, & Spirit

To see the complete virtual book tour line up, follow each host on Twitter! And to connect with them on Facebook, click here!

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7BLOGGERDAYS Jan16: Picture of me

Lauran hiding her face

Lauran hiding her face

Here is a photo of me at a restaurant called Waffles in the South Loop area of Chicago, IL. My significant other took this picture, trying to catch me on the sneak, but I am always watching…so this is the shot he took! And I was being bashful! LOL

VIRTUAL BOOK TOUR! Lauran Smith Dot Com hosts the first leg, beginning Feb1!!

Introducing…Sherry Burton Ways!

Sherry is the Author of a brand new book: “Feel Good Spaces: A Guide To Decorating Your Home For Body, Mind, & Spirit”! From February 1st – February 12th Sherry will visit 12 blogs on her virtual book tour. Lauran Smith Dot Com is hosting the very first day of this awesome tour! You are invited to follow the tour, visit a new blog each day, meet some wonderful new friends and experience something new! Feb2nd will be captured here! Make sure you’re on the tour!

Make your way back to us on Feb1st for more in what Sherry provides regarding decorating YOUR home!

Don’t miss this!

Lauran

7BLOGGERDAYS Jan15: Describe what I cooked last

I took no pictures…probably because it was GONE before it really hit my plate!!

The last meal that I prepared was salmon croquettes, scrambled eggs, and  grits!

When I make my croquettes, I used Pankos Italian Herb bread crumbs to coat them, I mix in diced green onions and an egg! I always purchase the canned pink salmon.

I scramble my eggs w Kraft Shredded Four cheeses, a dash of salt, pepper and garlic salt!

My grits are seasoned w pepper and Country Crock butter…talk about DELISH!! Breakfast food for breakfast? That’s fine…but FOOD IS FOOD!!

We ate good last night! I actually could stand to eat those again tonight! I will refrain LOL!!

 

7BLOGGERDAYS: jan14 Favorite Outfit

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One of my favorite outfits!

Lil black cocktail dress, funky purple wedges, plum matte lip color by ViVid, and a black polish! I was at a Halloween social and I had an amazing time!!

Lauran

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