Shooting In Newtown

My prayers are extended to anyone suffering during this tragedy.

In all honesty, I wish the gunman would have turned the gun on himself PERIOD…not on anyone else at ANY point. Those children, and adults alike, had dreams…and those dreams are permanently deferred…such a tragedy and completely ridiculous…

Be safe out there…if your kids aren’t safe in the school house, where the hell else can they go while the parents work to provide for them?

Smh…

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elle

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The Halloween Crowd

I’m really not into Halloween, not REALLY. But people get REALLY involved this time of year!

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(Photo from picasaweb.google.com) CREEPY!!

I mean going a far as creating entire scenes…

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(Photo taken from pumpkinrot.blogspot.com)

The outfits can get to be really gross lol…

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(Photo taken from democraticunderground.com)

It’s all in fun though. I totally get it. I guess I was turned of from this play-frightful night when teens in my quiet, suburban neighborhood were beating little children w crowbars, and stealing their candy. I know, I know…not everyone operates in a fashion such as this, but it really turned me off from what used to be a fun night! My girls and I would get together and all go out, trick or treating (yes we were in high school lol); most of us had smaller siblings, and were responsible for taking them out (the horror right?) so we really didn’t mind. But once we started hearing the local news reports of the senseless violence, we stopped supporting the day. We were glad that we didn’t fall victim to the terror, and we were actually content w passing OUT candy. I also like the fact the villages are now setting hours FOR trick or treating for the kids. I’m all about the safety of the babies; I will be a Mom one day, and the LAST thing I want to do is rob my Lil darling from any fun due to my own personal fears.

But I challenge everyone to be safe! It’s definitely fun, if fun is done in decency and in order. No one should get hurt! Save some candy for me! ;0)

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(Photo taken from khpinson.blogspot.com)

Elle (Please have a safe Halloween!!)

State of the Black Family

Do you really want to know? I mean really want to know what the status of the average black family in America is? If you do, I’m not 100% sure I can give you the answer. What I can do is offer you my hypotheses. I’m not a certified expert appointed by a bunch of intellects, who have sprawling curriculum vitas and impressive framed parchments emblazoned with shiny stickers and big signatures. No, I’m just a young professional who lives in a black family, who has friends in black families, and witnesses the struggle on a daily. Hopefully that will be enough background to make my observations minutely credible. You on board? You are? Cool, let us begin!

The problem that I’m seeing with the black family is often times just a lack there of… What happened to the nuclear family that we learned about in elementary school? You know the one; with a loving couple (typically married) and their children. Am I the only one who faintly remembers this lesson? Maybe that’s the issue! Having a strong sense of family in the traditional sense (2 parents living together raising their children) is a fleeting concept, not only in black homes but in homes everywhere. There has been a steady decline in the number of people doing what Grandpa and Grandma did. Meet, courtship, engagement, marriage, co-habitation, then children. Now think about the steps most of our peers take to get to the children part… The differences are so drastically different it’s not even worth trying to loosely list them.

I really do believe that this is the disconnect. We’re so wrapped up in instant gratification that our generation really struggles with the concept of patience, including myself. Taking the time to learn who this person is that you want to be with, for the sake of looking for a formidable mate, rather than just a good time is the key. There are way too many innocent children walking around (potentially including myself and a good number of my peers) that are products of a good time. I’m going to plant this seed in your thought box real quick: When one learns that they are with child, if that pregnancy was not the goal of their relationship, the initial reaction is pretty far from joyous. When they get the news the first thing they think about is: “What are/am we/I going to do?”….

What I’m getting at is that unplanned pregnancies have to be warmed up to, and learned to be loved by the parents, versus loving this blessing before it’s a reality. There is the “Oh shit” phase, hopefully VERY quickly followed by celebrations! Let’s do our best to make better decisions when a life is potentially hanging in the balance. Children don’t ask to be here, so let’s make sure when they get here it’s because you wanted them to come. They deserve that at the very least.

Thanks to Elle for asking and trusting me to post to her blog!! Always a pleasure sharing thoughts!

Thanks for reading,

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Vincent G. Hardy, Jr.
http://www.opinionrequired.wordpress.com