Just A Quick Pet Peeve…

Sitting in my favorite coffee shop, and in walks one of those “extra important people”…by that I mean someone who comes in the coffee shop either talking loudly to other coffee house guests, or someone who comes in talking loudly on their cell phones.

He is talking loudly on his cell phone.

He, along with so many others, is the reason that I LOVE ear buds and the peace I get simply from plugging them into my ears.

I was actually wrapping up some work that I was completing, and completely forget to include another item on my agenda. In walks “extra important”. Not only talking loudly, but wearing the loudest cologne EVER CREATED. And where does he sit? At a table directly in front of me, and positioned himself to face me as well. So I’m catching it ALL. I QUICKLY grabbed my earbuds back out of my purse, slid them in my ears, and turned on iTunes. I have completed tuned him out…unfortunately, earbuds don’t work on bogus cologne.

At any rate, one of my biggest pet peeves is someone who speaks EXTREMELY loud, and for what seems like no other reason than to let someone know “he look at me, I’m here”. Sir, please have a nice seat because I can’t with you today.

Now…coffee shops aren’t “libraries”, and I’m fully aware that people will talk w friends/business partners/have phone conversations. But to be “extra important” is really…well…whack. There actually is a coffee shop protocol to follow, and the loud conversations and loud cologne aren’t included.

“Extra Important” has left the building. I can now remove my earbuds (if I choose), and work in peace.

Moral of the Story: just be respectful of your neighbors in general. Some people naturally talk loud…but the same people who naturally talk loud, are fully aware that they do. Can’t tell me otherwise LOL!

Enjoy your Thursday!

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Open That Door

It’s been a while since I’ve blogged, and in all honesty, it’s been by design! I needed to take a mini break to get settled in my newest role…

FULL TIME ENTREPRENEUR.

Yes…as of April 1, 2013 (April Fool’s Day lol) I quit my job in “corporate America”. It came out of nowhere. Nope…I didn’t give two weeks notice; nope, I have not a single regret. I politely told my mgmt person this simple phrase: “I think I am going to have to make my last day here TODAY”. Imagine the look of shock on his face when I said that! I was confident in my decision, had already taken a peak at my financial situation, and decided that I had to act NOW. And I did!

I’ve been happy ever since.

Thing is, in order for me to truly get the weight off of my shoulder, I had to open the door of LEAVING that job. I was MISERABLE (I’m sure some of you have viewed past posts which made reference to my disdain for that place…), and I could not “find joy” in having to be there for seven hours and forty five minutes of my life, day in and day out, anymore. I thought about how much money I had been making there, and let out a sigh…the money was great, but not enough to keep me from being unhappy. I just know that I could no longer take the misery!

I left…and not 10 minutes after I was gone, I received two referrals to manage social media for their brands. For a while I had been working full time on BOTH–the corporate job and my career–and I was completely worn out. One had to go…and it was NOT going to be my PR Firm…

In order for me to receive the vision TOTALLY, I had to open that door of “the money is good at this job though”, walk ALL THE WAY out of it, and activate my faith. My spirit is free now. I may not be making the same amount of money that I was bringing home from the corporate job, but my clientele is picking up tremendously, and I have yet to be worried about making ends meet. I refuse to worry about what God has already done!

I challenge you to Open That Door. The door to working out, establishing your place in society, being open to love, mending a friendship, saving more money…whatever the “door” is for you, go ahead and open it. A huge part of your life’s work is to strengthen what already exists inside of you.

Be free to be who you are; my testimony is simply that I chose to Open That Door. Here’s a look at my door: http://www.prbyelle77.com

What You Want vs What You Accept

Currently digesting information from these pages:

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Author Steve Harvey is not necessarily “liked” by many, as it relates to his advice on relationships…I actually like him, and I agree w quite a bit of what he discusses in this book and in “Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man”.

One thing I am noticing in today’s relationship society is that people are looking for that “quick fix”, or the situation that yields mostly, or only, tangibles. Hmmmm…if I’m honest with MYSELF (speaking for Lauran Adell ONLY) I know that I want more than just a handbag or a trip to an exotic island. On page 56 of the book “Straight Talk, No Chaser”, Steve makes a VERY strong statement. He says “…accepting gifts from a guy without getting what you want in return is nothing more than an advanced form of prostitution”. What makes this statement so TRUE is that I know women who willingly accept gifts from men, yet secretly desire a real relationship (if your BOYFRIEND/FIANCE/HUSBAND buys gifts for you, that’s different–I’m not referring to those women). When a woman accepts those gifts, handbags and trips, without getting what she truly wants, she is in fact a “bought woman”; you JUST told a man that you have a “set price”, not that you are “priceless”. This ALSO speaks to the fact that a Father or Father figure is JUST AS important in a girl-child’s life as one is in a boy-child’s life. (DISCLAIMER: this is not to say that a woman is ONLY strong if she has a Father/Father-figure; this is merely stating the IMPORTANCE of said role in a girl-child’s life…keep reading!)

My Father, bless his HUGE heart, is the BEST MAN IN THE WORLD to me; a modern-day Superman!

Here I am w my Daddy at a luncheon at our church, where he Pastors, where the men were honored:

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He has made it so that I don’t ever have to want or need for anything!

Because he was (and still is) very active in my life, I understand that I deserve the very best that a man has to offer. My Father has ALWAYS given me his best, even when I didn’t want to hear what he had to say on certain topics; but that didn’t stop him from being the best Daddy to me…I salute him and how he has been very crucial in how I handle men. BECAUSE OF HIS INFLUENCE, I can smell the proverbial bullsh*t miles away.

Steve Harvey hits on SEVERAL points about how to deal w men and how to get what you would like out of men (i.e. commitments , honesty, etc, not referring to tangible items–please…), but one thing that he will state, and states OFTEN is the fact that if you aren’t getting what you desire out of your relationship/if you feel that it is going nowhere/if he won’t commit, LET HIM GO. I love how he refuses to sugar coat a situation w his female audience…and for some, it’s just what we need to hear/read. What you want HONESTLY is that commitment; so why settle by merely accepting gifts that only pacify you for the moment? It’s easier to manuever through these situations w men when you KNOW YOUR OWN PERSONAL VALUE. It’s only a problem when you have no clue as to who you actually are and what YOU actually want.

I know what I want and I won’t settle for less than I deserve; I have my Father to thank for that! My Mother (may her soul rest in heavenly peace) was married to a KING (my Daddy); she encouraged him, supported his vision(s), and stood by him. Also, my Dad knew he was blessed with a Queen–and he treated her as such! A woman who encourages her significant other and supports him will ultimately make a man “want” to change his ways FOR HER! You can’t “change a man”, but you can be so phenomenal that he commits to making changes on his own…KNOW THE DIFFERENCE!

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There is no textbook method in getting to know someone, however you have to truly evaluate and sometimes RE-evaluate your situation on a regular basis.

Are you getting what you want?
Or are you getting what you accept? I’m hoping you know the difference…trust me; the men ALREADY KNOW THE GAME; we have to “navigate the plays”, ladies!

(FYI: if your man is honest w you, he will acknowledge his growth (or lack thereof) with you, and will let you know JUST how valuable you are to his life…I never said that love is easy, but I do know that love should not hurt you, and is ABSOLUTELY worth it!)

To Sir: Wherever you are as you read my blog, I Love You; I appreciate you allowing me to love you the way that I am designed to love a man, I am grateful for your support of everything that I do, I will always encourage you to be the best that you can be, I have your back, and life has been amazing since you’ve entered into it. Thank You for being there for me; no matter what we have gone thru, I wouldn’t change a thing…I know, just like I knew back in 2011, that I am in good hands. *muah* 

ELLE

7BLOGGERDAYS Jan15: Describe what I cooked last

I took no pictures…probably because it was GONE before it really hit my plate!!

The last meal that I prepared was salmon croquettes, scrambled eggs, and  grits!

When I make my croquettes, I used Pankos Italian Herb bread crumbs to coat them, I mix in diced green onions and an egg! I always purchase the canned pink salmon.

I scramble my eggs w Kraft Shredded Four cheeses, a dash of salt, pepper and garlic salt!

My grits are seasoned w pepper and Country Crock butter…talk about DELISH!! Breakfast food for breakfast? That’s fine…but FOOD IS FOOD!!

We ate good last night! I actually could stand to eat those again tonight! I will refrain LOL!!

 

7BLOGGERDAYS: JAN11 Favorite Moment

One of my most favorite moments is when I decided to start my own business!

I was hesitant to do so in such a trying economic time…but one day, while on a brief medical leave from my job, I formulated my plan! I also recall being selected for jury duty, and thinking to myself “there is a chance that I will NOT get called; let me take my notebook and write out some ideas”…and that’s exactly what I did! I did not get called that day for duty, so I spent a FULL 6 or so hours writing out my vision for my company.

Well, I’m coming up on a ONE YEAR of being an entrepreneur, and it feels great! I woke up this morning to an email from someone soliciting me for their brands, plus emails from clients updating me on things that they need…that instantly made me smile. I LOVE what I do, and I am grateful that I did not let the financial hardships of the world cut into my dreams! Once I got over my initially hesitancy, I discovered that everything needed to “Just Do It” was on the inside!!

I am a better woman for staying focused on my goals! I challenge you to do the same!

 

The Urgency of FOCUS (34)

I would not be honest w myself or ANYONE else if I made my life out to be “crystal stair-ish”…my ish is NOT perfect by any means, and I don’t portray a person w a perfect life, but let me enlighten you…

DISCLAIMER: if you get your panties in a bunch about things relative to my life and how I feel about my blessings, that’s something YOU have to deal with. I’m not knocking the life of another; I’m writing about my own. Thank You (that’s for the softies who get “in their feelings”) LOL

My family dynamic is phenomenal AND RARE nowadays i.e. two parent household, all siblings by the same two parents, all children born after the marriage, parents married UNTIL death…all of those factors are dopetastic…but let me tell you; my family is NOT perfect. I don’t need to go into detail, but know this: EVERY FAMILY has some level of dysfunction; those relationships need improvement. Keep reading…

My lovely company (PRbyELLE77) will need to be tweaked, and often, if I am to remain in business. That’s not a perfect situation either, certainly will always need improvement…

My relationship w God–the most IMPORTANT of relationships that anyone could ever have, in my opinion–gets a BIG ole “needs improvement”…and in red letters though…

I need to workout PERIOD. I’m not fat, my last physical exam w my Doctor was awesome, but I am NOT in the mood for a gym, yet I complain about problem areas when the onus is on me…needs improvement…

Now…I just gave you FOUR areas in my life that need improvement (I only NAMED four…that’s not all; that’s just all I care to share). With that said, HOW ON EARTH do I have time to get off into someone else’s business? My focus must remain strong on those matters of importance to me, which are family ties, my PR firm, my relationship w God, the fact that I need to workout, etc. Someone said to me Monday–if we are what we eat, we are what we think. POWERFUL!!! I am not a bad person because I am not necessarily doing things on a “straight and narrow path”; some people will have to come to grips w that very fact alone, but I ALSO have to realize that my path, and the choices regarding said path, are MINE and mine alone. With my PR Firm, I cannot get discouraged if things aren’t smooth sailing INSTANTLY. I want to quit THE HELL out of my 9-5 EVERY SINGLE SOLITARY DAY…every dawg gone day lol BUT…instead of complaining about being at the job, I wake up and say to myself “I get to quit my job”–this is a fact! I WILL get the opportunity to quit, when God sees fit for me to leave! Changing my outlook on that has changed the way I handle the job! My relationship w God and the fine tuning that MUST come w that starts also w me. He has never ONCE left me; I’ve strayed away from Him. His arms remain open wide for me, so mine are open to receive the embrace that He will give to my spirit, granting me PEACE in the situations around me. Good Lord I need you…

The gym? Eeeeeeeeh…I’m not perfect LMAO!! But no, I will figure out the best plan for me, however in my planning, I can’t become angry that I don’t “look” a certain way in a certain amount of time. I have to come to grips w a slower metabolism, which means I will have to work that much harder. But it’s all for ME. A size six isn’t bad; but a TONED size six is what I’m looking for.

Bottom line: there is NOTHING more urgent than focus! NOTHING. If you’re focused, you won’t be shaken…I’m working on that daily…

Elle

12.12.12 My WebSite Launch! (32)

I am elated today because we are now at the official launch of my company website! (click the photo to be directed to the site!)

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I am thankful for my own diligence w my company, even in a time where people suggested that I “wait”. For what? Starting a business takes money in the beginning, but fulfilling a dream is priceless…and this is a dream! My late Mother would be so very proud of me!

I want to thank everyone who genuinely believes in me, those who have entrusted their business/brand w my company, the love of my life for his support, Freddie Taylor of Nimble Websites for their hard work and dedication, and a special thank you to myself…for staying the course, making room for my gifts, remaining FOCUSED, and making a route for me to leave the job that is holding me back.  I am GRATEFUL today for the things that God is adding to me!  If you learn ANYTHING from me, please learn this:

It’s ok to have a dream and to work towards making that dream your reality! Write YOUR vision and make it plain; your first belief MUST be in yourself and your own abilities.  Once this is your focus, there will be nothing…AND I DO MEAN NOTHING…that will be able to stop that train!!!

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Elle

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