I'm Just Sayin' (18)

I’m laughing as I type this; super short and sweet.

It’s so amazing to learn about what people are doing behind the scenes; you know…the things that they would rather you be blindsided by. For example, the many smiles in your face attached to gargoyles (ugly people whose ugly insides eventually ooze onto their outward appearance) secretly telling family members/close friends/anyone w a listening ear major league bullsh*t…and why? Because their lives typically suck. *What they seek to control and cannot, they try to sabotage and cancel out*. Pay attention to people who always have a desire to “one-up” you…they “smile” the hardest.

People will be who they are, no matter how much they try to cover it up w successes, money, prestige, and power. Just let them be! When you learn how YOU work, what they are up to won’t hold any weight.

*-phrase coined and created by Elle

*smoochface*

Elle

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Choose Responses Wisely! (17)

You have to truly recognize when someone has decided that YOU are their target. And it doesn’t have to be a specific reason i.e. you forgot to call them at 8pm but called them at 8:02pm (petty right?), you missed their birthday celebration, etc., or you’ve decided to focus more on your own life…I meeeeeeeean the above reasons ARE reasons that people will put you in their line of fire…and w subtweets/sub-FB statuses/subpar communication…but it’s strictly up to you how you will respond…or whether you will even respond.

People have made a career out of being sh*t starters; that’s just what they do. They are often times annoying, attention-seekers, insecure, or some are purely just in it for a healthy debate (not all sh*t starters are whack lol). But now…you KNOW FULL WELL the difference. Just be advised that when you are doing great, stuff will always be thrown at you. If you are in a state of misery, or things aren’t on the up and up right now, some people secretly LOVE a person to struggle. Let me help you out (and this has worked for me):

1. Let them do what and how they do– you can’t change a person, but you do have options! Everything is about “choices”. If you don’t wish to communicate with them, well then don’t! If it’s on a professional level, and you’re dealing w a jerk, just remain professional in all exchanges; once they are aware that you just aren’t falling into their trap, they will move on to another.

2. Do not respond to their ignorance– this is self-explanatory; you don’t even have to acknowledge them. HIGH key, that pisses them off. That’s not necessarily your aim (or maybe it is lol), but remember…from a distance, a person can’t tell who the fool is if two people are arguing. Don’t give in to their whack agendas; it’s NEVER worth it. People able to pull you all the way out of your body like that have OFFICIALLY placed you in their pockets. Just ignore them.

3. Think about the source– if you know this person regularly has something to say, keep that in mind also before you make the decision to react.

4. Laugh– it burns calories anyway

People are on assignment to cause discord, and unfortunately, some of these assignments are self-imposed. There are a few who actually get paid to be jerks lol (I won’t name names, but you KNOW who they are, think about media outlets). But to the ones who are out here blindly on a mission to disrupt peace? Don’t be their next client.

*smoochface*

Elle

Guess Who's Watching (16)

I was leaving church one night after choir rehearsal and I stopped to get gas. Didn’t really pay too much attention to my surroundings, but noticed a few cars. I finished pumping my gas, got in my car and pulled off. Looking in my rear view mirror I noticed a dark colored car…whatever, kept going. I take weird roads home…the car was right on my tail. I had enough sense to drive straight to the police station. Lo and behold, there was a policeman sitting out front…the mystery car kept going. First instance…

Was in the grocery store down the street from my home; noticed a guy kinda on my heels in the store but NOT on my heels, feel me? Anyway, I went on about my business, checked out of the store and got in Candy (my car). As I’m exiting the parking lot, buddy from inside of the store was RIGHT on my bumper in his blue old school Chevy like car…I drove up, he sped up; I switched lanes, so did he. I had enough sense to take buddy on a wild goose chase thru the suburbs and I ended up at the police station…the mystery car kept going. Second instance…

Aaaaaaaaaaand June 19, 2012, I was in Target, near my work place. Walking thru the aisles, getting my things. I look up and there’s a guy on every aisle I’m on. I kept on going, getting my things. I even went to random aisles…yep…he ended up there too. Okaaaaaaaay…well I get to the checkout counter, pay for my things and I exit. I get outside? Buddy is RIGHT behind me. I’m headed to Candy, he’s still right behind me. I had enough sense to walk by my car, zigzagged thru a few cars and ended up back inside Target. Ran into the guy bringing in carts and said (as I pointed) ‘this guy right here is following me’. The cart guy kinda went up to the guy and chatted w him, and I JETTED. Got my tail back to work, but was slightly shaken. Third instance…

I can’t stress enough how important it is to be mindful of your surroundings; I’m one to talk lol; I have tunnel vision BAD, but for some reason God keeps my “high impact workout” self in tact when faced w these types of crazy situations. If you know anything about me, then you know I’m animated, emotional, “cheerleaderish” at time…just a high impact workout! I have no idea what “menu item” I may have been in ANY of these situations, but I know that God determined that a hair wasn’t to be harmed on my head, and that He wanted me to make it home. I am grateful for God’s constant protection in dangers seen and unseen. You have no idea how much He is working on your behalf…so yeah…I’m going to be mindful of my surroundings, but there’s comfort in knowing that God is just as mindful.

INJURED AND WOUNDED… (8)

I don’t really dig sports all THAT much, so this isn’t a blog about any recent injuries (prayers out to those who are dealing w injuries though…).  I’m talking about the injuries we have that either life has provided, or the ones we give ourselves.  Yep…even you are injured.

Let’s get to it.

FOR EXAMPLE…I am “injured” or “wounded”…not from any past relationships or anything like that (those wounds have since healed), but my heart has a slight “tear/rip”.  For those who are not truly familiar w me, my Mom passed away January 22, 2009 from a cancer called Multiple Myeloma.  She actually outlived the actual life expectancy OF the disease, but God called her on home…it was just painful to watch such a vibrant being lose all strength.  This is my heart’s tear.  (wait…lemme do this right quick…)

DISCLAIMER: I am in NO WAY looking for any sympathy; however the world needs to know that not ALL injuries are PHYSICAL in nature.

(back to original thought) Ok.  The “injury” that my heart has sustained is the loss of my Parent.  My Mother; the woman who carried me for nine months, endured 27 hours of labor to bring me here, and loved me unconditionally.  Dealing w her passing is a DAILY struggle, and in all honesty, this is one of those wounds that won’t ever FULLY close…feel me?  Grief is one hell of a road trip…

You may not have this same type of scar; this is an injury that “life” provided to me and my family.  And it’s actually ok. But this doesn’t qualify as an injury that was self-inflicted; oooooooooooooh let’s step over into that room…

What about the person in your life, whether it be friends/family members/WHOEVER, who is truly “no good”?  Not all relationships that are bad for us will be the boyfriend/girlfriend type stuff…think about the “toxins” that you allow into your space…if someone is always “slick” jabbing you, but always ending it w a “just kidding”…watch out.  SOME of those people are genuinely your peeps, and are just kidding…but there are those who will secretly seek to sabotage your success.  Your circle should be small; the circle of people who you share your dreams/goals w should be EVEN SMALLER.  Keeping “toxins” around you due to feelings of obligation, or because you have history w them?  SELF-INFLICTED WOUNDS.  There is no logical reason that a person who brings about harm and discord should be allowed to remain in your space. Their constant presence only reopens or KEEPS open your own SELF-INFLICTED WOUND…don’t you love yourself? Sooooo pouring salt into a paper cut, for example, actually “feels good” to you? Ha!

I don’t knooooooooooooooow…if you constantly reflected on WHO is in your circle, and what they bring to your life, you’d have to honestly ask “is this to my benefit or detriment?”.  It’s really time out for assuming that certain affiliations will bring about perfect relationships; stop buying proverbial “band-aids”; you’re “wasting money”, and your self-inflicted wound will never heal, because you cause the pain to “self”. Life’s injuries don’t have to kill you; just care enough about yourself to understand that some things just aren’t your fault.  Some injuries are unavoidable…what are you doing about the ones that ARE?

*smoochface*

Elle