Ten Things That Love Should NOT Feel Like…

Being in love has got to be one of the most amazing feelings ever…next to seeing your newborn son or daughter for the first time after labor (so I hear). That “in love” feeling is also amazing when you are loved back.

Well…now knowing what love is, I also know what love is not. I’m not an authority on the subject, but the heart will never lie to you.

Let’s go:

  1. Love should never make you feel fear.
  2. Love should not feel like a “chore”.
  3. Love should not be extremely hard or feel tough.
  4. Love should never make you feel as though you are alone.
  5. If someone loves you, you should never feel as though they just “don’t care”.
  6. Love should never place you in a state of confusion.
  7. Love never fails; if it’s hurting you, then it isn’t love.
  8. Love should never feel as though it isn’t supportive; love IS an anchor and something that grounds you, holding you steady in the midst of ANYTHING.
  9. Love should never make you question your decision TO love (deep)…AND FINALLY…
  10. LOVE NEVER LIES…

I won’t part my lips to say I Love You and not mean it…that’s the problem though; people say it, knowing full well that it’s empty and FAR from sincere.

Your best bet? Pray before you commit yourself to someone. Let God order your steps in a new or even a more seasoned relationship! You can even get better footing w someone if you have fallen off track, yet you all are on the same page, and willing to work at the relationship. Do the work BEFORE things go sour (if they ever do). Just make sure that you know that “flowers, bells, whistles, and candy” ALL of the time is not real. There will be disagreements, heated discussions, anger, etc., but love has the extreme and undeniable power to conquer any of those things. Just have enough sense to keep an open mind.

Take my poll and let me know if you agree w this post!

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INJURED AND WOUNDED… (8)

I don’t really dig sports all THAT much, so this isn’t a blog about any recent injuries (prayers out to those who are dealing w injuries though…).  I’m talking about the injuries we have that either life has provided, or the ones we give ourselves.  Yep…even you are injured.

Let’s get to it.

FOR EXAMPLE…I am “injured” or “wounded”…not from any past relationships or anything like that (those wounds have since healed), but my heart has a slight “tear/rip”.  For those who are not truly familiar w me, my Mom passed away January 22, 2009 from a cancer called Multiple Myeloma.  She actually outlived the actual life expectancy OF the disease, but God called her on home…it was just painful to watch such a vibrant being lose all strength.  This is my heart’s tear.  (wait…lemme do this right quick…)

DISCLAIMER: I am in NO WAY looking for any sympathy; however the world needs to know that not ALL injuries are PHYSICAL in nature.

(back to original thought) Ok.  The “injury” that my heart has sustained is the loss of my Parent.  My Mother; the woman who carried me for nine months, endured 27 hours of labor to bring me here, and loved me unconditionally.  Dealing w her passing is a DAILY struggle, and in all honesty, this is one of those wounds that won’t ever FULLY close…feel me?  Grief is one hell of a road trip…

You may not have this same type of scar; this is an injury that “life” provided to me and my family.  And it’s actually ok. But this doesn’t qualify as an injury that was self-inflicted; oooooooooooooh let’s step over into that room…

What about the person in your life, whether it be friends/family members/WHOEVER, who is truly “no good”?  Not all relationships that are bad for us will be the boyfriend/girlfriend type stuff…think about the “toxins” that you allow into your space…if someone is always “slick” jabbing you, but always ending it w a “just kidding”…watch out.  SOME of those people are genuinely your peeps, and are just kidding…but there are those who will secretly seek to sabotage your success.  Your circle should be small; the circle of people who you share your dreams/goals w should be EVEN SMALLER.  Keeping “toxins” around you due to feelings of obligation, or because you have history w them?  SELF-INFLICTED WOUNDS.  There is no logical reason that a person who brings about harm and discord should be allowed to remain in your space. Their constant presence only reopens or KEEPS open your own SELF-INFLICTED WOUND…don’t you love yourself? Sooooo pouring salt into a paper cut, for example, actually “feels good” to you? Ha!

I don’t knooooooooooooooow…if you constantly reflected on WHO is in your circle, and what they bring to your life, you’d have to honestly ask “is this to my benefit or detriment?”.  It’s really time out for assuming that certain affiliations will bring about perfect relationships; stop buying proverbial “band-aids”; you’re “wasting money”, and your self-inflicted wound will never heal, because you cause the pain to “self”. Life’s injuries don’t have to kill you; just care enough about yourself to understand that some things just aren’t your fault.  Some injuries are unavoidable…what are you doing about the ones that ARE?

*smoochface*

Elle