Keep Moving!! (21)

Don’t you absolutely HATE when someone takes something that you’ve expressed in the WORST context possible? And often times, it’s because they may be stressed out or tired?

Not your problem right? Right!

Someone took me making a correction to them, regarding something very personal to me, COMPLETELY in the wrong spirit, and as a result, I received a very snippy message. Now…20+ yr old Elle may have snipped back lol, but I didn’t. The thing that they were incorrect on is STILL important to me, and…in spite of their feelings, the correction had to be made clear. Period. No apologies, no take backs. I responded to the party accordingly, and separately from the group. This individual is a total asset to a specific project, and I don’t take their work/dedication/affiliation lightly. HOW-IN-SO-EVER…lol the thing personal to me still matters. So at the end of the day, I still appreciate that person, but they need to make note of the correction.

Thinking before “snipping” could save a relationship (professional or personal) from being “clipped”. Also, making sure to always “be you” and to be true to what matters in your life teaches another person respect FOR your life, whether they “like” you or not. As for the incident I experienced, we’ll just hope the other party is getting enough rest at night! Stress mixed w being tired is no good for the body and the mind!!

Think before you “snip”!

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Sunday Morning!

It’s Sunday morning. I don’t know about anyone else, but this is one of the most PEACEFUL days of my life.

I can count on the beauty of a quiet ride to Starbucks (Sunday morning routine is to get my Daddy breakfast and my coffee), and just to be alone w my thoughts of praise.

These past few weeks have been trying, traumatic, troubling yet triumphant. God won’t allow me to lose, because He created me in His own image…a winning image. I smile w the peace of God covering me and my loved ones, and I’m ever so grateful for His grace and mercy. He constantly stands up inside of me, when I’m at my weakest…and His arms have never been closed to me…that’s why I praise Him; because He’s already done enough! If He NEVERRRRRRR does another thing for me, I have 34–almost 35–yrs worth of blessings. I could be dead, on drugs, unemployed, transportation-less, homeless, hungry, poor, UNLOVED, alone…but I’m the opposite of ALL of those things. I have TOO MUCH to thank God for…

Spiritually Maturing w Every Keystroke,

Elle

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State of the Black Family

Do you really want to know? I mean really want to know what the status of the average black family in America is? If you do, I’m not 100% sure I can give you the answer. What I can do is offer you my hypotheses. I’m not a certified expert appointed by a bunch of intellects, who have sprawling curriculum vitas and impressive framed parchments emblazoned with shiny stickers and big signatures. No, I’m just a young professional who lives in a black family, who has friends in black families, and witnesses the struggle on a daily. Hopefully that will be enough background to make my observations minutely credible. You on board? You are? Cool, let us begin!

The problem that I’m seeing with the black family is often times just a lack there of… What happened to the nuclear family that we learned about in elementary school? You know the one; with a loving couple (typically married) and their children. Am I the only one who faintly remembers this lesson? Maybe that’s the issue! Having a strong sense of family in the traditional sense (2 parents living together raising their children) is a fleeting concept, not only in black homes but in homes everywhere. There has been a steady decline in the number of people doing what Grandpa and Grandma did. Meet, courtship, engagement, marriage, co-habitation, then children. Now think about the steps most of our peers take to get to the children part… The differences are so drastically different it’s not even worth trying to loosely list them.

I really do believe that this is the disconnect. We’re so wrapped up in instant gratification that our generation really struggles with the concept of patience, including myself. Taking the time to learn who this person is that you want to be with, for the sake of looking for a formidable mate, rather than just a good time is the key. There are way too many innocent children walking around (potentially including myself and a good number of my peers) that are products of a good time. I’m going to plant this seed in your thought box real quick: When one learns that they are with child, if that pregnancy was not the goal of their relationship, the initial reaction is pretty far from joyous. When they get the news the first thing they think about is: “What are/am we/I going to do?”….

What I’m getting at is that unplanned pregnancies have to be warmed up to, and learned to be loved by the parents, versus loving this blessing before it’s a reality. There is the “Oh shit” phase, hopefully VERY quickly followed by celebrations! Let’s do our best to make better decisions when a life is potentially hanging in the balance. Children don’t ask to be here, so let’s make sure when they get here it’s because you wanted them to come. They deserve that at the very least.

Thanks to Elle for asking and trusting me to post to her blog!! Always a pleasure sharing thoughts!

Thanks for reading,

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Vincent G. Hardy, Jr.
http://www.opinionrequired.wordpress.com

Smile ANYWAY! (19)

It’s times like these (in the midst of branching out and starting my own) that I have faced the MOST ignorance, hatred, arrogance, negativity, and pessimism. Welp! I smile ANYWAY.

People make fun or make light of things important to me; I smile ANYWAY.

People suggest that I go THEIR road, instead of paving my own way w faith, of course. I smile ANYWAY.

My passions and pleasures are expected to mirror that of another, or I’m supposed to just “be” a certain way because of who I’m related to. Well damnit…I smile ANYWAY.

I do the best that I can at being me, yet for some? EVEN THAT ain’t good enough. I smile ANY effing way.

There are slick jabs, subtweets, back stabs, and pure tasteless actions directed in my path. Honey…I realize that Lucifer has “relatives”. I smile at them too lol

Ever since God determined me to be “good enough”–and in some cases, better than that–I knew that life would be great, w a Lil side of bullshat. Who am I to think that I would be able to bypass darts and daggers? Hell, why NOT me? When people make the not-well-thought-out attempt to tell me how I should live? I smile ANYWAY.

Don’t you know I’m covered from my head CLEAN down to the pink polish on my toes? Will people be there on assignment to test my strength? Yup. Is the devil doing his job by attempting to bring discord in my most valuable and exclusive relationships? Yup. Will I succumb to the pressure to be like “every other PR agent in the world”? Naw. Should my blogs be gender specific or only in “one box”? Nope. I’m too many different levels of smart, beautiful, talented, mysterious, and clever. God made me this way; and because He just “IS”…I smile ANYWAY.

Elle

Product Review-Carol's Daughter

I am elated to report that my first experience w Carol’s Daughter products is a great one!

I purchased “Tui”; a leave-in conditioner in the Carol’s Daughter line of hair care.

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(product purchased at Macy’s for Carol’s Daughter http://www.carolsdaughter.com)

I go through MANY different phases w my hair, however in the summer, I typically ride w micro braids or my natural short curls. Since I’ve decided to rock a super short and curly style, I wanted a product that would be light in my hair, and one that smelled great! I found that in this marvelous leave-in from Carol’s Daughter!

My review coding:

Hot Pink Nails: MUST HAVE
Pale Yellow Nails: It’s cool
Chipped Blue Nails: You CAN live without it
NO POLISH: Waste of money

I give this “Hot Pink Nails”!

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(photo of my lovely nails lol)

It keeps my curls shiny, it’s non-greasy, and very light! Get Tui today!

Elle

#ICONS (8)

Meet our newlywed Mr. Fred Anderson!

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Outfit Description: Slim Fit Calvin Klein Linen Suit
Jos A Bank Tailor Fit French Cuff Shirt
Tungsten Carbide Egara Cuff links
Joseph & Feiss 100% Silk Tie & Pocket Square
A.Cellini Brown Square Toe Shoes
Black Purple & Grey Argyle Gap Socks
Guess GC 3 Chronograph Watch

Career: U.S. Government Employee

Most Passionate: I’m most passionate about my God, Wife, Family, & being a better person. Learning new things extending my knowledge base and helping people.
Hobbies: Cars & Shopping

We absolutely love it when the men step up and show their fashion sense, and Fred’s style has always been on point!

Please join me in congratulating my 8th Icon on his recent nuptials, and saying hello to my friend, Mr. Fred Anderson!

I'm Just Sayin' (18)

I’m laughing as I type this; super short and sweet.

It’s so amazing to learn about what people are doing behind the scenes; you know…the things that they would rather you be blindsided by. For example, the many smiles in your face attached to gargoyles (ugly people whose ugly insides eventually ooze onto their outward appearance) secretly telling family members/close friends/anyone w a listening ear major league bullsh*t…and why? Because their lives typically suck. *What they seek to control and cannot, they try to sabotage and cancel out*. Pay attention to people who always have a desire to “one-up” you…they “smile” the hardest.

People will be who they are, no matter how much they try to cover it up w successes, money, prestige, and power. Just let them be! When you learn how YOU work, what they are up to won’t hold any weight.

*-phrase coined and created by Elle

*smoochface*

Elle

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