Doing Me, Not You…(3)

What happens when you have a situation where someone has judged you incorrectly, based on a tweet, FB status, or your personal opinion about a matter? For example, you make a statement about being happy not to be a single mother, you mention the love of your life one too many times in your FB statuses, or your opinion on plastic surgery is that, unless you’ve been disfigured, you don’t need it…(by the way, these are my beliefs, and I’ve been judged on them). 

Being judged is not fun, and people actually “choose” to believe what makes them feel better.  If it makes someone feel better to believe you to be a whore, then that’s what they will believe.  No need for them to “fact check”, or get to know you; it’s a choice to stick to their beliefs.  If someone chooses to believe that God doesn’t exist, well then hey…you can’t get mad at that either.

Question is though…what do YOU believe?

I just think that everyone is entitled to their own opinion.  That’s pretty much it w that…if you are happy to be one who is not a single mother, you can still be happy about that.  I PROMISE YOU…it really is ok.  If you want to mention a significant other and how exceptional they are, please continue to do it.  If you never plan to have plastic surgery, that’s fine as well.  The problem comes in when you make an attempt to FORCE your beliefs on another person/a group of people.  (And keep in mind…your twitter is YOURS and so is your FB, along w your opinion).  It doesn’t make a person wrong for thinking against your beliefs; they’ve just introduced their opinion.  Period.  I will NEVER seek to justify to a soul just how wonderful love is.  Some don’t believe in it; but I do! Noooooooooot about to cushion a tweet about my joy of being childless; hell, I am HAPPY about that right now lol. But I won’t invade your space w my beliefs by getting mad if you don’t agree.  Three Words: I Don’t Care. The very minute you decide that “you” are actually ok w moving around how YOU do, is the VERY same minute that you’ve actually fallen in love w yourself…the single most important person is “you”.  So I can’t do you for being too busy doing “me”!



4 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Courtney Nicole
    Mar 28, 2012 @ 12:50:50

    It's crazy how people do things for others. Whether its dress a certain way or buy certain things… Put up certain stats or tweets! All for the "ok" of others. I have been there and done that and TRUST me you will drive yourself crazy trying to gain the approval of others! I am definitely an aquired taste and not everyone can handle the bold, bright, bursting w/ personality yet sensitive woman that I am! And Im ok w/ that! Thanks Elle for reassuring me that doing "Me" is enough! I'm def doing and loving me!


  2. Tiffany
    Mar 28, 2012 @ 12:57:51

    I really enjoyed this and it is very timely. I was upset because I was judged for reasons unknown to me. But you're right, I have a right to my opinion, these are my beliefs and I wasn't forcing them on anyone else! Thanks for sharing!


  3. ELLEWordsInc
    Mar 28, 2012 @ 14:48:32

    THAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAT'S what I'm talkin' about!! Love Love LOVE this! Thanks for reading!


  4. ELLEWordsInc
    Mar 28, 2012 @ 14:49:34

    It's always ok to be you! And you can do that and STILL be respectful of another person, whether you agree w them or not! Thanks for reading!


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